Ask your employer into looking into adding adoption benefits to your existing benefits. If your employer currently does not offer any type of benefits, encourage a large, local business to offer adoption benefits to their employees.
We are very, very fortunate to have this covered. Both of our companies offer generous adoption reimbursement benefits, and the benefits at J's company are twice what my company offers. He works for a large company, and several people who adopted lobbied for the benefit. As a matter of fact, J started filing the paperwork just last week!
But an even bigger benefit, at least in my opinion, is to have a maternity leave policy in effect for adoptive parents that is on par with biological parents. Again, I was very, very fortunate to have a maternity leave policy that didn't distinguish between adopting and giving birth. So many women I see on adoption message boards have no maternity leave policy for adoptive parents, and have to go back to work after a matter of a few short weeks.
So if you're in HR and you're reading this, look into having these benefits at your employer. Thanks!