Tuesday, February 16, 2010

Adoption update

We have a potential situation with a birthmother in another state.

A friend of the family has been in contact with me since she and her husband adopted about 18 months ago. She let me know there is a woman due in March or April and has decided to make an adoption plan. I called her contact for information, but all we know at the moment is that she just decided on adoption. We obviously have a lot of questions, and want to make sure this is the right situation for everyone involved. I'm really hoping the young lady is talking to an agency or a lawyer, and that she is getting counseling for what is a monumental decision.

We're hoping to hear more this week so we can find out if this is something we want to pursue. If so, we would still work with our agency but in a slightly different capacity. And we'd have to link up with an agency or adoption attorney in the other state. So there is a lot to think about.

Just as a technical FYI, an interstate adoption works like this (in a nutshell): the baby is born in state A, and the adoptive parents go to state A. Legal paperwork must be filed so that the baby can go to state B with the adoptive parents. More legal paperwork must be filed so that state B will accept the baby into the state. The adoptive parents must stay in state A until all of this paperwork goes through, which usually takes several days.

Please send good thoughts and prayers that this will work out well for everyone.


Amy (MyColonyNJ) said...

omg! I hope this works out for you. Keep me updated :)

Serendipite said...

You are the kindest, most understanding person I know. So many people would just be hoping for themselves, but you want what is best for everyone. I hope it works out for you, and I know what is meant to be, will be. And I also know you are patient and wonderful enough to wait for the right thing. I am learning a lot of patience from you!

aikidochan said...


I really hope this goes well. And if not, it's just one step closer. Near misses may be hard, but it means that opportunities are accumulating. That's good!


Me said...

Best wishes!